Author - Loren Keeling

Dear friends and followers I hope this message finds you well. My experience of post-separation abuse started 8 days after the abrupt termination of the relationship. I was in shock at how he ended our relationship but I never expected that a former partner would turn against me the way he did. He gave me a written proposal of how he was going to help me financially, then days later I was intimidated when he was aggressive and angry shouting at me that he was in control, I had to do as he said, or he could throw me out onto the streets. His behaviour was volatile I tried to keep out of the way as much as possible. It is never easy when a relationship ends and I was doing my utmost to resolve things in a friendly way. I wanted to discuss his written offer but found it impossible. The day I went to speak with him he was talking to someone on his iPad. As I walked into the room he introduced me to the woman he was going to move in with after he left Spain. I informed the ex-partner that I would send him an email I had an idea that we might discuss things and negotiate a settlement that would help me after he left me here. It could take a long time to sell a property in Spain and it was during covid lockdown. On the day of the discussion, I requested to record our meeting, I was fearful he would get angry again. He did, intimidation, threatening aggressive angry voice tones, verbal abuse and humiliation. all recorded on my mobile. His promises were worth nothing. Two weeks after he returned to the UK moving into the home of the woman he was starting over with, I was informed by email that he was going to court to evict me from the home he had promised to share 50/50. That was the start of the nightmare. In three years I have three overlapping litigations against me. 1. Precarious Eviction. 2. 7 Criminal Allegations now reduced to 2 allegations 3. A Civil claim for his court cost & moral damages. The situation is deeply distressing. The two remaining accusations stem from my decision to self-publish my story, a courageous act to expose the hidden abuse within our relationship and shed light on the challenges I faced post-separation. In sharing my truth, I never anticipated the legal storm that would ensue. Truth is never defamation. To make matters worse, the Plaintiff's Lawyer produced court documents that can only be described as fabrications. False statements like legal "gaslighting" threaten not only my emotional well-being but also defamation is a criminal offence here. My challenges have somehow become my purpose as I recognise that the legal system fails women over and over again. My first book highlights this failure. If you can support me with a donation, share my content or purchase my book, it will help me raise awareness and assist me in covering the legal fees that I need to pay. I feel that my life has been in a sort of LIMBO for the past three years. It is not over yet. I intend to publish the sequel to my first story to cover the injustice the discrimination and the absurdity of how a manipulative cheating-lying ex-partner can abuse the legal system and weaponise defamation laws against me for telling the truth. QUOTE "Survivors have the right to speak out about their own experiences It can be extremely difficult for survivors to speak about their abuse and the weaponization of defamation lawsuits is a form of secondary victimization. Survivors of sexual violence can choose to speak out or not, but any person who has experienced rape, assault, or harassment should not be shamed, intimidated, coerced, stigmatized, or threatened into remaining silent. And international human rights law agrees." Read more here https://equalitynow.org/news_and_insights/weaponizing-defamation-lawsuits-against-survivors-violates-international-human-rights/

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